kids gets in the car after school.
the school you strategically moved half way across the state to get em into and presently traveled 43 minutes in traffic frome which to pick em up-So mama bear is flustered but happy to see the kid, ya know…
Me: how was school?
I knew exactly what I set myself up for. The lonely dreaded one word answer
um, i have questions
Me: did you have PE today?
Brendan: nope, Guidance.
Me: what they guiding you to do?
I learned so much over the next 12 minutes. I asked a couple Intel seeking open ended questions and Vualah! I know how school really was. Nooowww, I have material for next time. He revealed situations he'd been dealing with, as well as a couple worries and cares. We connected for a second and I felt like in those moments, we bonded over the matters that were concerning his little heart.
see we have to talk to our kids, yall-for the sake of everyone!
Valuable questioning is a form of conversation, connection and relationship-something I feel is long missing from our homes and subsequently society. How is it that children are so sad that they'd take their own lives and the lives of others? More importantly, how is it that we don’t know?
Not gonna lie, some days I’m glad that we’ve all made it through the day unscathed! I’m satisfied that the kids have eaten, and we’re all in one piece by the end of the night. Sometimes no news is good news, right?! However, too often Ive underappreciated engaging with them in conversation. Laughing, debating, just hearing their hearts
I just want them to know they can talk to me about anything but more importantly, I want them to know that NOT talking to me just isn’t an option. Mama is going to get it out of you!
Heres a list of a few questions that tend to lead to more broad conversations with your little ones:
Tell me about the best/worst part of your day.
What was the hardest thing you had to do today?
Did any of your classmates do anything funny?
Tell me about what you read in class.
Who did you play with/hang out with today? ...How are their grades?
Do you think math [or any subject] is too easy or too hard?
What's the biggest difference between this year and last year?
Do you think the rules in your class are fair?
Did you get recognized for anything today?
Are you feeling confident about your classes right now?
Who did you sit with at lunch?-who ya friends???
share your questions and especially answers! kids say the funniest things!